Happy Valentine’s Day From a Fellow Single Mom by Connie M. Teis

Hello again single moms!  I trust that you had a great Christmas and your new year has been great so far.  My January started out with some disappointing news and I have had a hard time with it.  I shared from Romans 8:28 in December “that all things work together for good…”  We must be reminded of that truth.

So, here we are in February and with that comes Valentine’s Day.  Good for some but not good for all.  I think it can be one of the hardest days for single moms. At least it was for me. I would think of my children’s father who I still loved very much. I would wonder what’s wrong with me that could cause him to leave.  As I look back now I realize that I wasted time thinking too much and trying to figure out something that didn’t make sense.

It seems like there are reminders of Valentine’s Day all around us – commercials, in stores, kids’ school parties, etc. Not too long ago, I realized It was never the greatest day when I was married.  I never got jewelry from my husband and I can’t remember if I even got candy.  Maybe a card.  So, why did it bother me so much?  I guess the idea of not having someone on that day was hard.

So, on many Valentine’s Days, I had a broken heart.  I once even asked a cardiologist if he had a cure for my broken heart.  He being a Christian told me to cry out to God and He would help me heal!  That was too easy.  I would rather wallow in self-pity.  That seemed more comforting, it took me a long time to heal my heart. Love for your mate and father of your children doesn’t die overnight.  They say time heals all wounds.  Which I have found that to have some truth, but God is the only one who can truly heal.  With His help, the pain will go away, believe me.     

So what can a single mom do on Valentine’s Day even though you are dealing with a broken heart?  Make it all about your children.  Make it a day of love for them!  I remember making white cupcakes with white icing and I would put candy hearts on top.  The kids thought they were great and were so proud to take them to their school party.  At least I think they were!  Hopefully those cupcakes are something they remember.

I can’t emphasize enough that I know what you are going through not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day as a single mom.  I feel your pain.  I have been there.  I am praying for you that each day gets easier and you can focus on making more memories with your kids.  

I want to tell you that there is one love that will never hurt you and will always be there.  This is God’s love.  It is everlasting!  There are so many verses in the Bible about God’s love.  Jeremiah 31:3  says “The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.”  God’s love for you and I lasts forever!  John 3:16 says “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”  God loves every one of us and wants to have a relationship with everyone through us putting our faith and trust in Jesus Christ!  To find our more about what this means click here

So now on this Valentine’s Day you will find me enjoying some candy, maybe even a Tasty Cake; with a good cup of tea or coffee, reading a good book, listening to some music, and praying for you.  It’s only one day.  We can make it through.  Take care.  

Love, Connie Teis
Connie Teis is Sean’s mom and the co-author of The Single Mom Journey a devotional and small group study to help single mom’s overcome and succeed on their journey!  Click here to find out more.

Video – A Valentine for Single Moms by Pastor Sean Teis

Hello single mom!  Happy Valentines Day!  I made this video a few years ago specifically for you and wanted to share it with you!  I hope you like it!  We love you and are here for you and your children!  Make this day about your children, your loved ones, and most importantly about God!  If you don’t really know much about God click here.
Your Friend,
Pastor Sean Teis

Are You Kidding Me by Connie M. Teis

Hello to all you single Moms.  Allow me to introduce myself.  I too was a single mom.  My kids are now in their thirties (one almost 40).  My son was 7, my daughter was 2 and my other son was 10 months old when my husband left.  So, there I was – a single Mom!  Are you kidding me?  I don’t remember this being in my life plan.  It was certainly not part of my dreams.  This was not my Cinderella story!  So, there I was with many feelings – devastated, confused, hurt, scared, to name a few.
No matter how you became a single Mom, here you are on a path you never planned to be on.  I would like to be able to be an encouragement to you.  My heart goes out to you!   Do I have all the answers for this journey?  No, but it seems to help when someone can tell you they have been there.  
When I was a single mom there wasn’t much information out there to help. I can honestly say that at times I felt like an outcast especially when I saw other happy families that the dad was there.  I had one friend who was also a single mom which was helpful.  We did things together with the kids.  And we had our moments of feeling down.  It was nice to have someone who knew exactly what I was going through.  And that is why I want to be here for you.  I would like to do a monthly article which I truly hope will be a help to you.
A Bible verse that means a lot to me now is Romans 8:28 – “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose.”  I am proof this verse is so true.  My kids have grown up to be wonderful.  In my eyes, perfect, of course.  I was not perfect and did make mistakes as a single Mom.  I have thought at times that I wish I could do it all over and make some changes.  But God did work through it all and things did work out good.   I feel so blessed that my kids and I have good relationships.
I wish I could hug all of you as I tell you that you will get through this.  Take it one day or even one hour at a time.  I am praying for you.
And here we are only a few days till Christmas.  That is a rough time of year as a single mom.  I know for me there wasn’t a lot of money.  I heard someone say recently that as a child it wasn’t the presents, but the presence that meant a lot.  With one parent not there, you are it.  Make some memories.  My kids & I loved the Archway frosted finger cookies (they don’t make them anymore) and we still talk about our times having those.
I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!  I hope to be here for you in 2018 and help you as best as I can.  
Take care.  
Love, Connie M. Teis.