How to Forgive Your Father by Amy Gadomski

Jesus saith unto him, “I say not unto thee, until seven times: but, until seventy times seven” (Matthew 18:22). In this passage, Jesus is instructing Peter to not only forgive people seven times, but seventy times seven. So, this must obviously mean we are to forgive people a total of 490 times. You’d better start keeping a tally board then. In all actuality, this is not what Jesus quite literally meant. Jesus is instructing Peter to forgive others as many times as needed. Through God’s grace and willingness, He gives Christians the power to not only forgive those who hurt others, but those who have hurt us as well—for example, someone such as an absent father. Throughout Matthew 18 does Jesus tell Peter that it is easy to forgive others. At times, forgiving people like your father may seem nearly impossible. After all he has done to you and your family, it seems as though he is unforgivable. While this façade may seem like the truth, it actually isn’t. Your Heavenly Father, who died on the cross for you, also died on the cross for your father. Though your earthly father may have brought you much pain, it is quite necessary to forgive him. By doing so, this will help you grow and live through the pain and it will allow you to live your life without hatred or ignorance. Like Peter learned from Jesus, there will be a time when you will be hurt by someone. When this day comes, it is your job to keep an open heart and mind to what God is instructing you to do and how to react. God calls us to be doers of the Word, not hearers. So, let us stop just nodding our head in mental assent to forgiving people, but actually go out and forgive people. Forgiveness does take time and because of this, we should continually rely on God through prayer and supplication. As a result, God will help you to forgive even the most unforgivable of people, which may be your dad. Follow Jesus’ instructions and go out and forgive those who have caused you pain. You may feel better than ever before.
-Amy Gadomski
Amy is an intern and contributor to God is my Dad.  Click here to find out more about her.